Monthly Archives: November 2016

Panning for Gold: What to Do When Gratitude Is Hard

  This is the month of the year when we are reminded to be thankful. Pinterest is cluttered with suggestions for ways to count our blessings. At work one year, someone put up a thankfulness tree, and a sign inviting others to write on a leaf and add to it. Among the turkey and pilgrim decorations are plates and napkins and signs bearing the word, "Thanks." But the fact is, sometimes, it's hard to feel thankful. Sometimes we have seasons when the blessings are hard to see. The job is stressful, and you wonder if it's even where you belong. Your kids are struggling in school. The loneliness lingers, or your marriage feels old and empty. Depression is a cloud you can't shake. The test is positive, or negative. Sometimes the hard is so overwhelming the thought of looking for the good feels beyond our reach. At times like that, when we don't feel grateful, what do we do? We pan for gold. Now I've never actually panned for gold, but I imagine that it is hard work. Time-consuming. It requires great focus and a trained eye to look for the smallest bits of gold in the mud. All your energy goes into finding that precious metal. Those willing to look harder found more. So when I'm in a season where it doesn't feel like the gold nuggets are right there for the taking, I imagine myself as a gold miner (side note: I HATE the word nugget. Hate. It.). I take more time to look a little harder, sift my life around a little more, asking where I do see Him at work. I look for the smallest blessings. Sometimes I start with, "I am alive today." And then I thank Him for them. I thank Him for food, clothes, shelter, health and all that I take for granted every day. It's good to start there. Here's the reality: there's always gold. It might only show up in little flakes and specks. But when we look, we see it is there in abundance. It's breath in our lungs, feet to move us, hands to work, eyes to see. We see salvation, grace, life, and His love and presence. It's all that does not leave us even in the darkest moments. The more we pan for gold, the better we become at finding it. We see gold in a kind word, a safe drive, a quiet moment. It's found in sunrises, fresh air, and every day we get to start again. We are not asked to give thanks for every circumstance but in every circumstance. Whatever the season brings, there's gold in them there hills. We can be grateful people in the midst of trial, heartache, pain. Seek out the evidence of goodness mixed in with the dirt of hardship. Search for the reminders that we are never forsaken, even when the road is rough. His blessings carry us. Pan for gold, friends. Our lives are rich. Related posts: Peace and Hope Amidst the Storm  Why…

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5 Things Christians Can Do After the Election

On Wednesday, November 9th, we will wake up to a new president. Lord, have mercy. However the chips fall, the next four years will encompass a reality most of us probably would not have chosen. It's easy to feel helpless in light of the future, but there's still much that we can, and should, do. We can pray. I'll be honest-I put off voting because I didn't want to vote for either major party candidate. I have serious issues with both of them. But here's what I know about both of them-God loves them, and he can redeem them. To say otherwise is to deny his power. Their souls are more important to Him than anything else about them, and they desperately need our prayers. So we can pray for our new president. We can pray for wisdom, guidance, humility, wise counsel, strength, and peace. We can pray for a heart responsive to His Spirit. We can respect our leader. Like I said, not a fan of either candidate, but I also recognize that being the president of the United States has to be the toughest job in the whole world. God asks us to respect everyone, especially our leaders (1 Peter 2:17), and that includes people we disagree with. We are called to love even our enemies, and love includes speaking well. So we can speak with the same respect and grace about the president as we would if that person were with us face to face, because it glorifies God. We can love our neighbors. This election cycle has caused so much division. Shame and vilification have happened left and right, even between people who claim to care for each other. I have hovered over the "hide this person's posts" button on Facebook more than once. But at the end of the day, our call to love is greater than anything. So we can keep moving toward people who have offended us and see differently than we do, especially when they are fellow believers. Christ declared that the world would know we are Christians by our love. We can prove that true. We can be like Christ to the world. I've been immersed in the gospels lately, and what strikes me about Jesus' interactions with this world is that non-religious people really liked him. And he really liked them. He went to where they were. He ate with them, accepted them, and then called them to something greater. His lead foot was love. We as the church have focused so much energy on changing laws instead of changing hearts. We can choose instead to imitate Christ. We can move toward people with grace, invite them to the one who loves them more than life, and trust him to change them in a way no law ever could. We can trust God. He never wrings his hands during election time, hoping we'll choose the right leader. He uses all of this. He doesn't need America to be a "Christian" nation for Him to work. In fact, the church is growing the…

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The Power of Asking What If

I've always thought it was wrong to focus on the "what if's" in life. It seems like a recipe for anxiety to imagine all that could go wrong, all that could be hiding in the darkness of "what if." We could spend a lot of unnecessary energy trying to manage the "what if" scenarios. But I've found that if I just try to ignore the "what if's," they don't go away. They linger in my mind as nebulous possibilities with the power to hold back my hand from being brave. They hide in the darkness just out of sight, allowing the potential threat to grow. I've been discovering that there's a lot of power to demolish lies and face the fears that grip us when we let ourselves get curious about the "what if" questions. It started for me like this: One night this spring, as I was wrestling with my fear of failure (one of my go-to fears), I felt like God prompted me to ask, "What if you do fail?" Which, honestly, felt like kind of a mean question. God, you're supposed to tell me I won't fail. You're supposed to tell me everything will be fine. But the truth is, it might not be. I will acknowledge that failure is a possibility, as much as I would like it not to be. So I asked the question, "What if I fail? What's the worst that could happen?" If I fail, people might see. They might be disappointed. They might turn away. I might feel like an idiot (oh please, anything but that. Seriously). "OK, well, what if they do see? What if they are disappointed? Will they really think differently of you? Probably not. They'll probably be glad to see that you're human. Does that define your value? No, it does not. Are you still loved? Oh yes, so very, very much. And not just by God, but most likely by those same people who have seen you fail." Asking myself these worst case scenario questions was not an attempt to build up my defenses to protect from the pain of experiencing them. Instead, it helped me see where I am trying to rest in others for life and love. As I overlaid God's grace and truth on it, I realize I would survive a "what if." Would it be painful? Maybe. Probably. But would he walk with me through it? Yes. And I have hope that I would come out better on the other side. More human. Less self-protective. Braver. More restful. So much energy in life is expended in avoiding the "what ifs."We try to ward off the evil, the painful, the uncomfortable, instead of trusting that a) God will walk with us through it and b) however hard it is, God can redeem. Since then, I've been making a more regular practice of facing the "what ifs" head on. Confronting them is like pulling back the curtain on the Wizard of Oz and finding he's not nearly as imposing as he's making himself…

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