promises

Kids, you have a lot of life ahead of you. You have big dreams and hopes for how that all will go. There are so many things I want to promise you about that life. I wish I could promise you, sweet girl, that you will become a world-famous women's soccer player. Or that you, brilliant son, will someday live on that space station (though you know I want you to stay on this planet). I wish this world would always love you, no harm will ever come to you, you will have an easy path, life will be fair, and you will be happy and carefree. I can't promise any of that. Here's what I can promise you: I promise you will always be loved. I love you so much sometimes I can't stand it. It spills out all over you in hugs and kisses you don't necessarily want. Other times it's harder because our sin gets in the way, but I promise I will always make it my aim to love you well. And when I fail, which I will, remember that you are unconditionally loved by the One who made you. His is the one opinion that will never change. He's wild about you. Let that be your solid place, even more than me. I promise I will love your dad. He's a good man, your dad is. I'm blessed. But neither of us is perfect and marriage is hard work. I promise I will love him and fight for what we have. We will show you that it's all worth it to have someone who is with you for the long haul. We want that for you. I promise God will always be with you. If I could, I would always be with you (probably even when you'd rather I wasn't). I will always try, but there will be times that I cannot be there, or should not be there for your own growth. God has no such restrictions. He will always be there with all you need. I promise to get all up in your business. Hey, I'm your mom. So yes, I'll ask about who you hang out with and what you talk about. I'll put restrictions on what you can watch and play. When you're emailing and browsing online, I'll be looking over your shoulder. I'll stick my nose in your room when you aren't expecting me. I'll make you eat your vegetables and do your chores. Get used to it. It's because of #1. I promise to let you go your own way. I know that might seem contrary to #4. It's hard for me to write, but I know you need to be independent from us. I have ideas about who I'd like you to be, but those don't matter. What matters is that you be you. I know there will be many times when I need to just let you go, maybe even let you fail miserably. I will. Or at least…