Changing the Liturgy of Our Lives

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Changing the Liturgy of Our Lives
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It finally hit me, around the end of May, that the amount of time I was spending on social media and the news was destructive to my soul.

To be fair, there was a lot to know about it. But as I said in my previous post, maybe it’s not all for me to know. Or at least, not all for me to carry. And carry it I was.

But consuming those sources was habitual. I checked my notifications each morning. Over breakfast, I read the news. Hopped onto Facebook a couple of times each day to see what was new. Pulled up Twitter to catch what was trending.

Until I didn’t. Until I decided that I could, and should, change the liturgy of my life.

Liturgy seems like an antiquated thing. I think of gregorian chants and mindless rote recitations. But liturgy, I’ve learned, simply means the habits we embrace, the order of how we live.

I grew up in a church with a pretty clear liturgy. I didn’t realize how much I missed it until recently, as I’m in a program of spiritual formation that meets for quarterly retreats. During the retreats, we practice praying the hours-in the morning, before lunch, before dinner, and before bedtime.

The question isn’t, “Do I have a liturgy?” but “What kind of person is my liturgy shaping me to be?”

It’s important that we examine from time to time the habits, the order of our days, and ask, “Is this shaping my soul the way I desire? The way God desires?”

We are often unconscious of the liturgy of our days.

What Is the Liturgy of Our Days?

Throughout my walk with God, I’ve taken up the popular habits of Bible reading, prayer, fellowship. I see the value of these to incline my soul toward God and others. What’s more challenging for me, and I imagine most of us, is seeing the value of the ordinary, “non-spiritual” (seemingly) habits I have.

I never thought much about how what I read or listen to shapes me as much as my study of scripture. If I had enough of the latter, I thought, it wouldn’t matter.

It’s easy to separate our lives into the spiritual and the secular, but I’m learning that all of life is an opportunity to pray, to experience the presence of God. I start my day with devotional time, but what about the rest of my day?

If we desire to be attentive to the presence of God, do we order our days in such a way that we make space to hear from Him? Or are we filling our minds with noise, internet arguments, the anxiety of the world? Not only do we rob God of space He could have in our lives, we rob ourselves of peace.

Seeking a more peaceful liturgy to our lives seems critical right now. We cannot control the chaos of the world, but we can choose how much we allow it to infiltrate our souls.

So I deleted Facebook and Twitter off my phone. I check them occasionally just so I’m not completely ignorant of what happens in the world. I usually read a book or work on a puzzle over breakfast instead of reading the news (does doing puzzles make anyone else feel really old?).

It felt strange, at first. I feared missing out. And it’s true, I’m not the first to know something anymore. But I am redeeming a space that feels freeing. It’s like I shut the door on a world of noise and am learning to enjoy the silence.

Admittedly, there’s a temptation to fill the space I’ve reclaimed with alternative noise. I’m not yet at the point where I simply eat my breakfast in silence; hopefully, I’ll get there. But shifting even this small thing makes me conscious of all that I am taking in, and it forces me to question all the habits of my life. Do they make space for God or not?

 

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Why Self-Care (Sometimes) Fails Us

Why Self-Care (Sometimes )Fails Us
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I’ve had days where I’m worn out, and all I want is a hot bath and a TV show. Or I want to just recline on the couch, probably eating chocolate. You know, self-care.

Some days maybe it’s a long walk or a good book. Some retail therapy or a day at the beach. All good, all good.

Except if you’re like me sometimes you come back from those experiences and you feel just the same as you did before-stressed, worn out, distracted, as Bilbo Baggins famously said, “like butter spread across too much bread.”

Why?

When “self-care” doesn’t cut it

I’ve realized lately that much of what we call self-care doesn’t get to the heart of the issue. It’s an escape, a distraction, a temporary balm. I get away physically but I carry the weight with me. It doesn’t address the deep lies and idols that have probably been the culprit in my detour from a place of health.

So what it is that we need to do instead?

I know I need to begin with being more mindful. When I am, I’m less likely to get to the place where I need to get away from it all, where I am just spent.

We need to be mindful of how we got here in the first place. What’s been missing in my life that has worn me down so much? Chances are it’s not a lack of baths or chocolate (for sure not a lack of chocolate on my part).

How did we get here?

Is it that we haven’t been spending enough time in the spaces and relationships that are life-giving? Have we wandered away from foundational truths that nourish our souls?

Or is it something more practical-have we simply let other people or our own egos plan our schedules to excess? Have we kept an unsustainable pace?

We need to be mindful of the accusations of the enemy that assault us. Mindful of our negative self-talk. Or simply mindful of the noise that shuts out the chance for us to hear God’s voice speaking life.

We need to be honest about where sin or foolishness had led us to live in a way that is unwise, that drains us. Where we have chosen the path of least resistance rather than the healthiest one.

Maybe the way we can care for ourselves the most today is the thing that takes the most courage.

True Self-Care

It might be drawing a stronger boundary with the person who takes too much from us. As hard as it that might be, it is good for both parties.

Maybe it’s sitting in the reality of how something is impacting us, and speaking necessary truth to it. That’s hard work, and it takes time, but that’s how we win the battle for our souls.

It could be a time of confession of where we have lived beyond our limits. That’s humbling to admit, as is scaling back, but it gives our souls space to breathe again.

Self-care might look like ditching the chocolate for something healthier (I mean we can keep this as a last resort, of course).

When we’re tempted to hole up by ourselves, we might actually need to initiate connection with someone who feeds our souls.

Maybe sitting in agonizing silence is the best thing for us. Then we can hear what our souls need to say.

While we’re on that long walk, self-care means dwelling on the truth rather than stewing over our worries.

Self-care isn’t always what comes easiest or most naturally. We have an enemy who wants to keep us worn down, and if he can’t keep us from that, he’ll make sure our time away from activity doesn’t really refresh us.

So we have to be intentional. Wherever we encounter resistance in our souls we need to ask why. What might our souls ask for that requires more of us than a temporary getaway? Let’s choose self-care that truly restores.

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